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Mary Friedel-Hunt


Mary Friedel-Hunt, MA LCSW, is a freelance writer and psychotherapist
in the Madison area.She can be reached at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
or P.O. Box 1036, Spring Green, WI 53588.

Rituals as reminders
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

Fireworks are being prepared. Floats are decorated. Picnic food is in the refrigerator and hopefully sunblock is ready to be used and will be needed. After all the rain we have seen, putting sunblock on would probably be a treat for people this Independence Day weekend.

On July 2, 1776, Congress secretly voted for independence from Great Britain. The Declaration of Independence was first published two days later on July 4, 1776. The first public reading was on July 8, 1776.

Tuesday, July 02, 2013 1:58 PM
Making a difference
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

Because of the 1,200 miles that stretch between my home and my niece’s home, I was not able to get to her wedding shower last week. I will be at her September wedding. As I prepared a card and gift for her, my mind wandered back 31 years to the day she was born and then to her fourth birthday in 1986. When she was born, I surprised my sister and flew out to Massachusetts, showing up at the hospital the day after Katelyn Mary made her appearance. Needless to say, my sister was elated to have a family member share this sacred time. Seven years earlier, I had flown out to her sister’s baptism performed by my brother. Both of my parents will now watch Katelyn’s wedding from the other side of death’s threshold.

When Katelyn had her fourth birthday,

Tuesday, June 25, 2013 6:12 PM
A Wisconsin welcome
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

Summer is well under way here in Spring Green. It was a long time coming this year, but the trees have all leafed out, the grass is growing lickety-split, and school is out for the summer.

The American Players Theatre opened on the 8th with a potluck for the village followed by a play. The Rural Musicians Forum starts along with a host of other events, including our annual art fair and more.

Summer is an amazing time. People appear to relax, but in reality their schedules seem to get incredibly busy. A woman told me today that she could not see herself taking a weekend off until August. That is because she owns a small business in town and this is the time of the year when our small-business owners are the busiest,

Tuesday, June 18, 2013 2:40 PM
Our furry friends
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

She walks him every day. They walk slowly, for Parker is nearing his death, so Jane patiently stands while he rests, then resumes her slow pace up and down the main street of our village. Sometimes Bentley and I see them from the car and we stop and chat. Other times, we bump into them as I walk Bentley, who is always in a hurry to get to the next smell in the surrounding grass.

Jane knows Parker does not have long. Just a week ago, she thought he was very close to his final days. But like dogs and humans alike, he bounced back and is out with her every single day.

Jane rescued Parker several years ago after

Tuesday, June 11, 2013 6:17 PM
Managing negativity

In Washington, D.C., last week we saw the Internal Revenue Service, Environmental Protection Agency, Department of Housing and Urban Development, and the Office of Management and Budget shut down, creating the largest closing of government offices since shutdowns of the 1990s.
In Chicago, we saw the largest number of school closings in the history of our country. In Oklahoma, we saw an outrageously powerful and destructive tornado. We have also seen horrific floods, hurricanes and forest fires. In movies and video games, we see

Tuesday, June 04, 2013 6:18 PM
Creating change
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

A long holiday weekend is behind us. One we set aside to remember and honor those who have served our country and given the ultimate gift of their lives.

Without diminishing that gift, I also see other ways in which those who serve give their lives. We all see it but we too often tend to ignore it. I am talking about those who return from war struggling with post-traumatic stress disorder, who waken at night with nightmares, feel anxious most of the time and weep uncontrollably at times.

Their lives have been changed by

Tuesday, May 28, 2013 3:21 PM
The need to trust

By Mary Friedel-Hunt

I was putting eyedrops in my eyes, something I have done three times a day for a long time, and I suddenly wondered just how much I trusted the manufacturers of the eyedrops. Did they put the right ingredients in this bottle, and is it sterile? From there my mind traveled to a variety of places where trust in others abounds. We trust the pilot of our airplanes, our parents, the doctor treating us or a loved one, the man who installed the furnace, the drivers of all the cars around us on the roads, the chef who prepares our food at a restaurant, the midwife who delivers a baby, and more — so much more.

From there I moved in a bit closer to the heart of the matter. I trust those I love

Tuesday, May 21, 2013 1:40 PM
Hurry, hurry

By Mary Friedel-Hunt

As I write this, I just returned from Chicago having visited my lifelong friend who is recovering from chemo treatments and seeing my ophthalmologist regarding upcoming eye surgeries. A long way to travel to an eye doctor, you might say, but this woman has tended to my eyes for many years and understands the several diagnoses I have to deal with. But this column is not about my friend or my eyes. It is about speed.

I grew up in Chicago. I spent the first 46 years of my life there and have driven every freeway, tollway

Tuesday, May 14, 2013 4:40 PM
Never too old

By Mary Friedel-Hunt

I saw a picture on Pinterest last week. The picture was of a mother bird returning to a branch where her three babies were waiting with open mouths. My first thought was wondering what that mother bird felt. Consider the mother who works long weeks at an office job, or any job, and comes home to three children, each of whom wants her attention. After paying the babysitter and taking her home — with the three kids in the car — they return home where mom now cooks dinner, makes sure the kids have their homework done and baths taken and then interacts with each of them individually and together.

By 9 p.m., if she is lucky, she has time

Tuesday, May 07, 2013 5:54 PM
At last!

By Mary Friedel-Hunt

April has come and gone, and hopefully as it leaves it will take the winter of 2012-’13 with it. This has been one of the longest winters I remember. If the weather predictions are accurate, we will be seeing some days in the 70s and with those perhaps we will see leaves on our trees and flowers in our yards.

I am sure there have been long winters before, but this one just dragged on and on with little sun and lots of icy walks. Several people I know took serious falls this winter. Others found themselves dealing with cabin fever as the gray days wore on and on. Yesterday I automatically put on a fairly heavy jacket to walk Bentley

Tuesday, April 30, 2013 5:23 PM

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