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Mary Friedel-Hunt


Mary Friedel-Hunt, MA LCSW, is a freelance writer and psychotherapist
in the Madison area.She can be reached at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
or P.O. Box 1036, Spring Green, WI 53588.

Becoming all we can be
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

I am writing this column on what would have been my husband Bill’s 81st birthday. It is a special day for me as I remember all he did to actualize the potential God gave him. He became a kind, sensitive human being who spent his adult years as a husband, father and friend; minister and caring clinical psychologist; woodworker and poet; nature and pet lover. Oh, there is so much more, but this list makes me aware of the talents we

Tuesday, January 31, 2012 4:45 PM
A bit of introspection
By Mary Freidel-Hunt

The month is more than half over, and I am wondering if you remember the column I wrote earlier in the month, the one challenging you to ask yourself who you are and who this person is that Shakespeare said you should be true to.

I asked in that column what you think it means to be true to yourself and suggested you study the quotes I provided to find a part of the answer. I suggested you ask yourself what you value, hope for, dream about, need, how you treat your friends, and what you believe and added a suggestion to list the most important people in your life.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012 4:31 PM
The noon whistle
By Mary Freidel-Hunt

AS I DROVE home from a nearby town today, the noon whistle blew. No one stopped. There was no visible acknowledgement. It made me wonder what would happen many years ago when the noon whistle blew. So I ventured into the world of the Internet and found out that the whistle is usually found in factory and mill towns. I always thought it existed to let the factory workers know that it was time to break for lunch.

Tuesday, January 17, 2012 4:16 PM
Where’s the snow?
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

I looked at the weather predictions and saw that, with the exception of a brief snow shower expected next week, there is no snow in the forecast here until mid-January. I grew up in Chicago and I don’t think I remember a December, let alone a January, without snow and freezing temperatures. But this year, we have had three tiny snowfalls here in southwestern Wisconsin. People are out raking leaves they never got to, walking around in light jackets and even T-shirts as the temperatures soar into the lower 50s. The kids who got scooters for Christmas are thrilled as they test them out in front of our house.

Tuesday, January 10, 2012 3:42 PM
To thine own self be true
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

Welcome to 2012! None of us know what this year will bring. The unemployed hope for a job. Others anticipate the birth of a child, while some know they will not live through the year. The list goes on from the superficial like winning the Super Bowl (sorry, football fans) to the serious and important.
Only this moment is guaranteed. Making certain we use each one well by being present to it and by being true to ourselves matters. Minds and hearts bigger than mine have spoken to the latter. Shakespeare: “This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.”

Tuesday, January 03, 2012 4:07 PM
Threshold of a new year

By Mary Friedel-Hunt

We stand at the threshold of another year. None of us knows what lies beyond that doorway. We hope the year brings with it peace, health, prosperity and more, but we are wise enough and have lived long enough to know that the year will be filled with a mix of events and experiences including joy, confusion, life, death, excitement, poverty, wars somewhere, peace, strife, sadness, grief, laughter and more. Maybe someone reading this column will cross death’s threshold this year. New babies will be born. Soldiers will come home from wars and many won’t. Life is a series of ups and downs. We know that.
The unknown can be threatening to most. We have little to no control over much of what happens, but we do have the ability to take charge of our own lives and attitudes. We can make certain that our intentions are pure, that we do all we can to continue to grow into people of loving-kindness and that we do our best each day to be people of integrity. That we can control.

Tuesday, December 27, 2011 1:46 PM
Celebrate meaning
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

Christmas is now considered by many to be a worldwide commercial and cultural holiday.Those of us who celebrate it primarily as a religious holiday struggle with this reality. To me it feels like reporting that July 4 is now something other than the celebration of the birth of our country. Though most people celebrate Christmas, for many it is about gifts, trees, spending, parties, food, gatherings and traditions of all kinds.
These stories and traditions vary from country to country and across many historical periods. Though we cannot imagine a year without Christmas, before 1894 it was not even a legal holiday and people went to work as usual, putting in a 12-hour day in a six-day week. Looking back in time, December celebrations were originally focused on the celebration of the winter solstice (Dec. 22), on light and dark because that day has the least amount of light in the year.

Tuesday, December 20, 2011 2:30 PM | Updated ( Tuesday, December 20, 2011 7:44 PM )
Cherish your body
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

I decided that it is time for me to shed a few pounds and clean up my diet so I am counting carbohydrates. It is a start. As I shopped for food this week, I was shocked to see how many high carbohydrate foods fill the shelves. I consider myself well informed about good nutritious food. I know Americans are sugar-dependent but I lost sight of just how much sugar we eat.
As I walked the aisles searching for low carb foods, I was reminded that healthy foods are around the periphery of the grocery stores. Certainly there are healthy foods in the aisles — oatmeal, nuts and seeds are among some of the good foods in the aisles. But as I walked each aisle, picking up foods here and there, I saw mostly high-carb and/or high-fat processed foods.

Tuesday, December 13, 2011 6:52 PM | Updated ( Tuesday, December 20, 2011 7:44 PM )
Reach out
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

On Thanksgiving night, I left my friends’ home and drove to my own. It was dark and, as I drove through town alone, I realized that people must have put Christmas lights up in the last day or so. Lights sparkled, filling the town with Christmas energy. I drove over to our main drag through town and, sure enough, Christmas lights lit the street.

Tuesday, December 06, 2011 6:33 PM | Updated ( Tuesday, December 20, 2011 7:45 PM )
It’s a small, small world
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

I subscribe to several free newsletters online. Some are about publishing, others about grieving, watercolor and more. One of the sites is headquartered in Australia about as far away from Wisconsin as one can get. I filled out the form requesting a subscription and instantly a message said I should go to my inbox to confirm my order. An email was there waiting for me in my inbox — all the way from Australia in only a second.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011 1:29 PM | Updated ( Tuesday, December 20, 2011 7:46 PM )

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